Welcome to a Tuesday experimental series where we're going to be doing a this or that episode for the next we'll see six to eight weeks. And this content is coming from over on YouTube. I've shared some videos. I don't there's not as a solid strategy over there from if I'm being honest, it's just kind of sharing some things, seeing what works. And what I have noticed is that people are viewing and also I'm getting some juicy comments from these this or that episodes. Um so I thought, you know, if people are getting helped over there and there's a chance to help my podcast listeners, you podcast, my podcast community, um, I absolutely want to do that. So I'm gonna drop these this or that. Obviously, not everyone will be applicable to you, but they're there to be a resource for anybody who is still on their Enneagram typing journey, and hopefully we'll be able to pop up in the future as you search for what type you are to learn about a specific type. So let me know what you think about these if you find them helpful. Would love any insight on these episodes or more type specific content, more type-specific episodes in general. Always love to hear from you. It's so important, it's so valuable. I appreciate hearing from you. So definitely let me know. Um, without further ado, we're gonna jump into a this or that talking about a type six, the guardian or the loyalist versus the type nine, the peacemaker or the mediator. Welcome to the Enneagram MBA Podcast, a show for aspiring and growing entrepreneurs and unfulfilled employees who know they are capable of playing bigger. If you are wanting to identify your gifts, find your purpose, do work that matters, and create a ripple effect that goes beyond yourself, you're in the right place. Each week you'll get resources, strategies, and support to help you get to know yourself, to get to know and understand others, like your future clients, and help you get known so that you can reach more people with your gifts and purpose. So grab your notebook or open up your notes app, and I will see you in class. Hi there, Sarah Lynn here, Enneagram Invisibility Coach, and today we are looking at a very common mistyping pair, which is the type six and the type 9. There are a lot of commonalities, a lot of similarities, and something else that adds to the confusion is that a type 9 and a type 6 are actually connected on the Enneagram with a line. So we got our type 9 connected to the type 6. And what that means for a type 6 is that when they are living their best life, when they are um in a really good place, when they feel safe and secure, they're also going to be able to take on some of those really um healthy qualities that a type 9 has. And then for a type 9, when they are stressed after they have tapped out all of their coping strategies, their defense mechanisms as a type 9, they move over and take on some of the coping strategies and defense mechanisms of a type 6. So depending on where you are in your life, what's going on, you may be looking like one type, even though at the at your core you are the other type. So here's a couple of things to think about. Um ultimately you're your type based on that core motive. And for a type six, it's to feel safe and secure. And for a type nine, it's to feel um at peace without conflict so that you belong, you're not cut off from your group. Um, one key difference to think about is how you handle conflict, how you handle challenges. For a type six, they're in what they call a emotional reactivity grouping with our type fours and our type eights. When a situation happens and that's upsetting, they're going to want to vent about it. They're going to be able to process it pretty quickly, get in touch with how they feel about it, let somebody else know, and they're going to want that person that they're talking to to also have those strong feelings, to feel as worked up about that problem as they are. Whereas a type 9 is in a positive outlook group with our type twos and our type sevens. And more so than being having a positive outlook about it, they're just kind of out of touch with the problem at all. So they're going to kind of be thinking, problem? What problem? And they are also going to take a little bit longer to process how they even feel about a situation. So it may take them hours, sometimes even days, to realize, you know what, that actually made me mad, or actually I'm sad about that, which can be really frustrating for somebody who processes things really quickly, right? Um, but just know that. Kind of think about how you how you know when you're upset. Is it immediate? Does it you need some time? And then when you do, how do you, how do you take on that problem? Another thing to think about is your initial reaction to meeting new people. Um, sixes tend to be a lot more skeptical and they're kind of approaching it as uh I'll trust you when you've earned my trust. Whereas a nine is going to be the opposite. They're going to be very trusting at first until you give them a reason not to be trusting. Another thing to think about is um how you look to kind of know that you're doing okay, how you get your needs met. And a type six tends to look outside of themselves, along with our ones and twos. They're looking at other people to know how good am I doing at a set of guidelines, a set of rules, an authority figure to kind of check in and be able to know how they're doing. A type nine, on the other hand, tends to withdraw with our fours and our fives. They're gonna go within when they feel like, okay, I am feeling it out of control, or um, I need to, you know, connect. Um, I they're gonna go within to do that and and tend to withdraw, maybe get quiet. Um, another thing to look at is how you handle a problem. So um let's say, for example, you have a leak in your bathroom, you hear that drip, a type six might notice it, and maybe it's um happens right before they go to bed. So they're they might lose sleep at night thinking, oh my gosh, there could be leak, there could be mold, this could be like the tip of an iceberg. I gotta get this fixed immediately and do so. Whereas a type nine probably isn't gonna worry a ton about it. They're just gonna, you know, wait for it to become more of a problem. And if it doesn't, then that's fine. That little leak isn't gonna be a big deal to them. Um, another thing to think about is type nines are very comfortable living in the gray. They can see all kinds of different opinions and they can understand. I can understand how you could see that. And then I could also understand how this person on the opposite end of the spectrum could also be viewing the world like that. And so they tend to not have super strong opinions one way or the other. A type six, on the other hand, um, tends to not like uncertainty, right? Can be kind of scary. It can kind of feel unsafe. It's like, no, I need to know for certain that this is the way to do it or this is the this is what this person believes in. I need to, I need to know so I can adjust, so I know, right? And so a six is going to be very um much more uncomfortable in the gray. And so those are a couple things to think about. There's many more things to dive deeper in and to explore, but hopefully that continues to give you some clues, some additional information to help you determine am I this or am I this? And then also looking at the stress and those growth arrows to kind of help you decide and and reflect on, yeah, where am I? And then ultimately looking at your core. If this is something that you're still struggling with, still have some confusion around, this is exactly what we do inside know your number typing sessions where you and I will sit down together and explore some of this in much more detail and then also look at how to use this information that you're learning about yourself and apply it to the work that you're doing. Um, apply it to your relationships, apply it to life in general. So I'm gonna invite you to check out more about a know your number session at the Welcome to a Tuesday experimental series where we're going to be doing a this or that episode for the next, oh, we'll see, six to eight weeks. And this content is coming from over on YouTube. I've shared some videos. I don't there's not as a solid strategy over there from if I'm being honest, it's just kind of sharing some things, seeing what works. And what I have noticed is that people are viewing and also I'm getting some juicy comments from these this or that episodes. Um, so I thought, you know, if people are getting helps over there and there's a chance to help my podcast listeners, you podcast, my podcast community, um, I absolutely want to do that. So I'm gonna drop these this or that. Obviously, not everyone will be applicable to you, but they're there to be a resource for anybody who is still on their Enneagram typing journey and hopefully we'll be able to pop up in the future as you search for what type you are to learn about a specific type. So let me know what you think about these if you find them helpful. Would love any insight on these episodes or more type specific content, more type specific episodes in general. Always love to hear from you. It's so important, it's so valuable. I appreciate hearing from you. So definitely let me know. Um, without further ado, we're gonna jump into a this or that talking about a type six, the guardian or the loyalist versus the type nine, the peacemaker or the mediator.