What You'll Hear in This Episode

Type 8s are probably the most naturally comfortable type when it comes to giving feedback. They're direct, they don't dance around it, and they genuinely mean it as investment, not attack. That directness is a real asset in a world where most feedback conversations stay so soft the message never actually lands. But the same striving to feel strong that makes Eights so decisive can also make feedback hit harder than intended and leave the other person too rattled to hear what was actually said.

We walk through three things to do and three things to avoid when giving feedback as a Type 8, including a specific phrase you can try that keeps the directness intact while making sure the other person knows you're in their corner.

3 Things to DO as a Type 8 When Giving Feedback

1. Own your directness, it's actually a gift. Most people spend so much energy softening and qualifying that the message gets completely lost. You don't do that, and that matters. Keep it. Just pair it with enough warmth that the other person knows you're coming alongside them, not coming after them.
2. Name the investment behind the feedback. Eights give feedback because they believe in people and want them to rise to it, but that part often goes unsaid. Say it out loud. "I'm telling you this because I think you can handle it and I want to see you succeed" changes the entire context of everything that comes after it.
3. Stay in the room after you say it. Eights can deliver feedback and move on before the other person has had a chance to process. Leave space. The conversation isn't over when you've said your piece it's over when they've actually had a chance to respond.

3 Things to AVOID as a Type 8 When Giving Feedback

1. Leading with intensity before trust is established. Your directness lands very differently depending on the relationship. With someone who knows you, it reads as straight-talking and genuine respect. With someone who doesn't, it can read as aggression even when you mean it as a compliment. Read the relationship before you read the feedback.
2. Confusing bluntness with completeness. Saying the hard thing clearly is the beginning of a feedback conversation, not the whole thing. Make sure you're also saying what good looks like going forward, not just what missed the mark. The other person needs both.
3. Shutting down when they push back. Eights can read defensiveness or emotion as weakness or resistance and disengage. But sometimes the pushback is just processing. Stay curious instead of closing off. The conversation that happens after the initial reaction is often the most important one.

A Phrase to Try:

"I'm going to be straight with you because I respect you and because I think you can actually do something with this."

This works well for Eights because it's honest, it's direct, and it does something the Eight's natural style sometimes skips: it signals that what's coming is meant to help, not challenge. It also sets a tone that makes the other person more likely to actually hear what follows rather than brace for impact.

After listening:

If this resonated, share it with a Type 7 on your team or the manager who leads one. 

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