Welcome to the Enneagram MBA Podcast, a show for aspiring and growing entrepreneurs and unfulfilled employees who know they are capable of playing bigger. If you are wanting to identify your gifts, find your purpose, do work that matters, and create a ripple effect that goes beyond yourself, you're in the right place. Each week you'll get resources, strategies, and support to help you get to know yourself, to get to know and understand others like your future clients, and help you get known so that you can reach more people with your gift and purpose. So grab your notebook or open up your notes app, and I will see you in class. I told you last week that this was going to be a two-part series on your wings, what they are, and how to use them. As I was writing out an outline for what I thought was going to be part two, it got to be so long. I am only through types one, two, and three. And I thought, you know, rather than trying to cram in all nine types, how to use your wings into like a two-hour episode, um, let's break it out. Let's break it out into and just make it more parts. That's fine. I, there's a part of me that like I have so many ideas, and I just cannot wait to start sharing them with you. And I'm like, oh, I want to get to the next topic. And the the following week, I want us to talk about defense mechanisms or subtypes, but we have, you know, what's the rush, right? We have we have the time. Um, so we'll get to those when we get to those topics. But I do think that spending some time actually talking about how to use the Enneagram. In this case, how to use your wings, how to actually what to know about your type and how to put it into action is really, really helpful and valuable and worth the time to do that because there's so much knowledge out there about the Enneagram. And it's so fun to consume knowledge. It feels so good to know things. And but I should say, or maybe, and also, it's not always that knowledge doesn't always create that change. And you've heard me say that quote before knowledge isn't power, knowledge is what you um, or power is what you do with that knowledge. And so this is what this episode is going to be about taking action, changing beliefs, um, switching the way that you might think or see, reframing a situation that typically maybe has been your default mode, which I shared um the other day this definition about the default mode, the default mode just being unquestioned patterns of behaviors and thoughts and feelings that just happen automatically, they're on autopilot. You feel this way, when this happens, you feel this way. When this happens, you do this without ever questioning. And so the more that we can learn about ourselves and then not just take in the knowledge, but have that awareness about ourselves. And then if we choose to decide that we want to change some of those unhealthy habits, unhealthy patterns, then we can. We can use what we know about the Enneagram to actually make change in ourselves and not just fill our brains with more information. We can actually use it. So last week was more about the knowledge of the Enneagram, where we're talking about wings. And if you haven't listened to that one, I would recommend going back to that episode, Enneagram Wings Part One. And that one breaks down all 18 types, all 18 wings, types, subtypes. There we go. Um, with a brief description to help you understand which one you might lean more into if it's helpful. If it's not, don't worry about it. Don't worry about using it. But I think this one is going to be really helpful whether you understood from last episode which one is your tends to be your dominant, at least where you are right now in life. Um, because we're going to talk about both of your wings and how to harness the strengths and the power of those types on either side of you to continue your personal growth journey, to continue to, you know, enhance what's already there. Because at the end of the day, we do have online types inside of us. It's just how do we intentionally pull the strengths in when we need them? We may not always need, you know, every strength in that moment, but it's understanding what those strengths are from the different types and then what, you know, pulling them in when we know how to use them. So oh, Chase just came in the room. I don't know if you heard that. He's been outside. It's like 60 degrees here. It feels like fall. We just got back from a walk. It was amazing. I feel like fall happened literally overnight here where we are in Indiana. And um, that walk I was wearing um, a bald jacket that actually got from my brother's store, and it I wasn't hot. It just felt so cozy and good. So I am, I got some sunshine, I got some exercise, and I'm ready to record this episode. And um, Chase is gonna hang out with us. He might move around some. I know you've heard him clink around in the background before. Um, so let's get to it. Today we're going to talk about type one, type two, and type three. And really, we're going to talk about um type four or yeah, type four and type nine as well, because um we're talking about the wings of all of those numbers. And I'm going to encourage you to listen to this, even if that none of those numbers are your dominant type, because what I say sometimes too is like, oh, I'm I need to tap into like my eight energy and bring in that confidence and directness in this situation, even though, well, in this case, my eight is my wing, but um, you can start to understand the strengths that the other types have. And we're gonna talk about this at a different time, um, which is the topic of arrows, which is just lines, two lines where your dominant type goes to in stress and in growth or when you're kind of really fully integrating. And um, so one of those might be one of these might be one of your arrow numbers too, if you find yourself, you know, r resonating with one of these. And so it's going to be good regardless of your type to hear the strengths of each of these and be able to tap in and pull those in. And then obviously, especially if you are one of these types, understanding those numbers hanging out on either side of you can be really beneficial just to enhancing um your growth as you grow into and learn more about your type. So with that, let's get into it. As a reminder, our type one is called the improver, the perfectionist, the reformer. When they're bringing in their nine energy, I'm gonna give you three ideas for how to bring in your wings. And the resource that I'm referencing is I actually got two resources for you. I should say this episode is put on by Sarah Lynn, your host here, and Adam Grant, who I pulled in so many of his quotes on purpose because he he is um, if you haven't heard of him, I need to maybe look up what he officially calls himself, but he just shares all this amazing insight about leadership, about the workplace, just kind of kind of shares some in um oh, what's the word, kind of strong opinions and kind of butts up against, you know, common uh uh status quo with kind of how the workplace has been done. And he just has like mic drop after mic drop over on Instagram and LinkedIn. So I highly recommend following him. But he he shares some quotes, and now with me being so into the Enneagram, and you might be able to relate to this if you are too, like I see the world through Enneagram types. And so when I'm reading his quotes, I'm like, oh my gosh, that is so five what he's saying right now. So I pull in some of his quotes for each of these, um, just to help us, you know, get the point, understand a little bit more. So he is a reference for this episode, and then I'm also referencing this book called The Enneagram Development Guide by Ginger Lapid Bagda, I think is how you say her last name. She's also the author of bringing out the best in yourself at work, what type of leader are you, and bringing out the best in everyone you coach. And she has a focus on Enneagram and business as well. So she might be a resource you want to check out, but that is where a lot of these ideas are coming from for how to leverage your wings and how to bring that energy in. So for our type one, we have the nine energy, also known as that peacemaker energy. And the things that you want to pay attention to with the one and look at pulling in for you is they're the nine's ability to embrace multiple points of view. Whereas our type one tends to live in that black and white, right and wrong, good or bad. Nines are the exact opposite and are very good about living in the gray, very accepting, very inclusive. One of their leadership skills or strengths is the ability to create a very inclusive environment to make sure that everybody's voice at the table is heard. And so to help yourself do that, you know, if you're a one and you you're thinking there is only one white one right way to do something. And sometimes, you know, they can get really rigid in their in their opinions and their perspectives. Stop and think, you know, what are the other points of view to the situation that are equally valid? You don't have to necessarily agree with them, but what other point, how else could somebody be looking at this? And and do they need to be heard? How can I, how can I help those other opinions be heard? And then think about those alternative ways of thinking about a situation or a challenge or a problem to solve without judging them, just listening, allowing your team, allowing the person in front of you to just be heard without judgment. And then a great follow-up question for your own, not coming from a place of judgment, but coming from a place of wanting to understand, you know, why do they think that? What do they think, and then why do they think that? And Adam Grant has a great quote here where he says, a red flag of arrogance is seeing flaws in everyone's ideas but your own. You strive to prove your intelligence by attacking others. Whereas a green light of humility is applying critical thinking to your own ideas, right? That's hard. That's not that's not easy. You aim to improve your intelligence by learning from others instead of attacking others. Oh, thought that was so good. Um, and then he also shared this one that I thought was great underneath this one that said, saying that's a good point doesn't lose the argument. It builds trust. Acknowledging a valid observation is a display of respect. It signals that you're listening with an open mind and motivates others to follow suit. You don't have to agree on everything to agree on something. Ah, so great for us all, especially for our ones who sometimes have that right or wrong thinking. The second way that you can bring in the nine energy is to practice tolerance. Typically, because ones see the world so black and white and and can be kind of rigid, it's you know, they they they can feel very frustrated when their point of view, when when what they think is the right way isn't isn't followed, isn't done. And so when you feel like you want to change someone or something, kind of ask yourself, how would a nine respond to this situation and let that answer guide your behavior? And if you're not sure how a nine would respond in that situation, I think a great action step for you is to learn more about your type nine wing. Learn more about um the energy that bring they bring, the strengths that they bring, especially to leadership. Um, and then just have the second way to help yourself do this. And we can all learn from this. This isn't just a type one thing, right? We can all um practice some of this, but is to appreciate just how perfectly imperfect we all are. Um there's there's, I don't even like to say good and bad, but there's good things about all of us and there's hard things about all of us. We're not all always doing the right thing. Um, you know, and that that's you know, sometimes, and this could be a whole another conversation, but with that cancel culture, it's like we're taking a one event that somebody did, and right or wrong, right? There's there's like some it's sometimes things are it's it's repulsive. I I understand that. So, but also, you know, we're human beings and there are just just like literally with with anything, there are it's the same energy that we love about our partner might also be the same energy that that fuels the things that we just cannot stand. But it's like if you take away that energy, then you take away those things. And not one person is 100% perfect and right all the time. So channeling some of that tolerance and acceptance and empathy for the times that others do misstep, do you know, regret saying something or doing something and just having that tolerance and and um you know, forgiveness potentially too. And then the the third thing that we can do as a type one to channel our nine energy is to learn to relax. Grant Adam Grant says resting is not a waste of time, it's an investment and well-being. Relaxing is not a sign of laziness, it's a source of energy. Breaks are not a distraction, they are a chance to refocus attention. That one really speaks to me. Breaks are not a distraction, they are a chance to refocus attention. Ugh, so good. Play is not a frivolous activity, it is a path to connection and creativity. And um, as I'm saying this, there are some of you on the Enneagram and our type ones being one of them, it's like relax. What? Sounds like such a waste of time, sounds frivolous. Um, it's yeah, and maybe it is seen as laziness, but I love how he put that. Um, nines are really great at taking time for themselves, especially when the going gets rough. They're able to relax into enjoyable activities, whereas our ones during rough times, they tend to push themselves even harder, right? And so when you're under pressure as a one next time, rather than pushing, pushing, pushing, forcing, trying to control the situation, just say take your hands off the wheel. And it doesn't have to be forever. It doesn't have to be for even a day. It can be 15 minutes, it can be 30 minutes to do something pleasurable and relaxing and just having that time to maybe it is refocus, to recharge, to just take care of yourself for a moment. And you know, for somebody who is finds it difficult to relax, um, having that time limit, especially just saying, okay, 15 minutes, that's all I'm gonna do, 30 minutes, that's all I'm gonna do. You're able to better allow yourself to enjoy every minute of that. This actually happened to me the other day, um, where I was, um, I ended up, I was just like, you know, I I need to, um, I was, I felt myself like really forcing something. It's like, I need to go back and sit down and I need to like be preparing for this, for this um presentation that I have to do. I need to go back and sit down and do that. I dropped my son off somewhere and I was like, I need to rush back. But then I was like, do I really like I have two and a half hours before that starts? Like I have my notes ready. I think what I really need to do is just like take a break for a second, just like chill out. So what I ended up doing is taking the long way home. I took the long way through this really cute little neighborhood. I ended up stopping at this local coffee shop. I got a fun drink that I normally wouldn't get and just like enjoyed sipping on it. I enjoyed the view, the drive as I drove back home. And I mean, total that maybe was like an extra 20 minutes, but I felt so refreshed, so good, so happy. Like it was, it was a delightful little 20-minute detour. Um, I loved looking at the architecture of that neighborhood. The coffee was really actually it was a it was I it was a green tea latte that I normally wouldn't get with oat milk. So that was kind of fun. But um, at this cute, really, really cute little um marketplace that had a coffee shop inside. And um, that was I felt so good then going in. I just that that's all I needed. And sometimes we're we think like, oh, we don't have time for that. Um, but channeling that nine energy to relax, take a breath, recharge can be so helpful, regardless of your type. So that is type one, wing nine energy. And then when we want to tap into our type two energy, our wing two as a one, um, there's three things that we can do here focus on our people, motivate others, and come from our heart. The um type twos are are tend to focus on others first, that just comes a bit more natural for them, whereas our ones tend to focus on the task at hand versus others. And so if you can kind of switch gears and just experiment, right? You know, say like, oh my gosh, I have to do this forever and I have to do it every single time forever and ever. Just experiment with what might happen if you focused on the people first and then the task second. An example of this might be instead of jumping right into a task, you know, going all hands hands on deck, let's jump in here, let's get it done, is just to take a pause and engage with the group first or your partner and ask for feedback. How, how do they see this being done? What what what do they envision this process looking like? What ideas do they have? And then taking that into consideration. And maybe, you know, you've made the project that much better. Maybe you've made um the activity that you're about to do with a friend or your partner that much more enjoyable because everybody's bought in. Um, people have had a chance to share their voice and it was listened to um and taken into consideration. And other times it may not be, you may not be able to do that, but simply asking and taking a pause to think about the people that are about to work on that task versus just the task and getting it done can really help build, you know, trust and an engagement with your team, especially in the workplace. And then the idea of motivating others, um, twos have this superpower of being able to read others and they're excellent leaders when it comes to making sure that the right person is in the right role because they have that intuitiveness. Whereas ones are gonna think that they are gonna have to take on all the work because no one else can do it as good as they can. So instead of becoming overextended and burnt out, ask yourself who else could do some of this work that needs to be done? Who else might be able to help me? Whether it's a virtual assistant, um, maybe it's, you know, thinking about this too out outside of work. Maybe it's somebody at at home. Like how else could some is there somebody that could help me mow the lawn or help keep the house clean or whatever needs to be done? And then what can I do to encourage them to take this on with enthusiasm? So if you're bringing somebody on or you're tapping into somebody on your team to do this to help you, um, not only can you just make a demand that they help you, but how can you kind of position it in a way that they're excited to take it on? And then the last thing that we can tap into from our wing to as a one is to come from your heart. Twos are very compassionate and empathetic, while ones are going to be more analytical and judgmental. And then when you realize, oh my gosh, I think I'm judging somebody right now. I'm probably judging somebody right now. Is there a way to there is a way, but how can you shift your focus and think about what they might be feeling in this situation and what they might need from you based on that feeling? You can always ask, um, how how do you feel about this? Right. And then and deliver that way, or you can just, you know, extend some empathy and think, you know, how might somebody might be feeling? And then even as your team, how might my team as a whole? whole might be feeling about this event that just happened, this change that's coming up. Um, what how might they be feeling? And and how can I kind of help them navigate through this? What do they need from me? And Gary V, I don't know what his Enneagram type is. We might think he is a three, but this man talks all. He might be a three-wing two. I don't know. But he talks all or a two-wing three. I don't know. But he is always talking about heart and kindness and like the servant leader mentality. And he shared a great quote that said empathy and kindness aren't normally seen as qualities that you need to lead a team. But I believe in them so much. I think of leadership qualities as maternal. I think the best managers have caring, empathetic personalities. So we can channel some of that that two energy in that situation regardless of our type. All right moving on to type two, which is our helper, the caregiver, um, when they're going to bring in the best qualities of their one, here are three specific things that they can do to to to help them do that. So one, learn to discern, two is going to be add realism to your optimism. And three is going to be assert yourself. So going back to learning to discern, ones are going to be much better at differentiating between excellence and subpar work. Whereas twos may tend to focus more on people's feelings and their reaction to that work, whether regardless of the quality. And so when you're struggling to make a decision that you know is the right thing to do, it's the thing that needs to be done, but are worrying because it's going to have an adverse effect on someone, you know, ask yourself for the greater good of the company, the team, my mission, this family, this relationship what is the best thing to do? And ones are excellent at improving. They are amazing at putting the needs of themselves um behind I kind of said that differently, I kind of said the opposite, but they're good at putting you know the needs for the greater good above their own. And sometimes that that needs to to be done um for you know the need the the the um oh my gosh I've gotten all tongue tied but the needs of the group need to be put ahead of the of the needs or the feelings of an individual as well. So you know doing that I'm sure that there's a a way to do that but just thinking about what is the best thing to do for the for the good of the team. Adding realism to your optimism. Okay ones are going to be more realistic and practical and systematic. And twos are in that pro positive outlook triad where they're putting with our two our sevens and our nines they're putting on rose colored glasses glasses have full type of thinking and they can be a little bit more idealistic. So when you have an idea as a two channel that wing one and put your ideas through a filter and check do we have enough money for this idea? Do we have the time? What specific steps do we need to actually implement to get this idea to work and Adam Grant bringing in my my co-host here my co-host from afar he says it's a mistake to pressure everyone to be optimists. The world needs pessimists too they're the canaries in the coal mine who warn us of danger. Optimists may solve problems but pessimists detect them early so it you know that's what a powerhouse to kind of have you know your natural positive outlook as a as a two potentially although I know I do know twos that tend to have more of that realist point of view but but bringing both in and adding some realism to your optimism. And then the third thing is asserting yourself. So ones are going to be more direct typically more assertive in their opinion versus twos who may feel more uncomfortable being so straightforward because again they're so focused on the other person. They don't want to hurt anybody's feelings they're they're thinking about what how that might impact somebody else um and there is some I think it's Austin Channing who had said actually being direct is being kind and being indirect is being unkind or something like that. I I probably botched that but kindness really is being direct and letting people know where they stand, what needs to be done. So remembering that too as a two can help um but to help kind of balance this directive and assertiveness with the with you know not wanting to hurt other people's feelings you know just think about the number of times that you give your own opinion maybe it's a statement maybe it's a directive versus how much you're asking for ideas and other people's opinions which is a little bit of the of the opposite that we had talked about in type one where they're you know rather than just focusing on the task ask for other people's opinions and so this is this is kind of the opposite of that um whereas before you ask a question or you know what's your opinion on this what ideas do you have check yourself use that that you know gut check is this really a question or is this actually a statement that I'm phrasing as a question because I'm afraid to be too direct when needed restate that question as a statement and then pay attention to the tone and the volume of your voice when you are communicating that statement this is something that I struggle have struggled with will have continued to at times too and I'm very aware of the inflection of my voice when I'm making a statement that I will sometimes women tend to struggle with this more so than men. We'll add that inflection at the end to kind of soften it but it doesn't need to be softened. It is a statement that ends in a period so channeling that one assertive energy with that directness can be a huge benefit to your leadership skills as a type two. And then the last type that we're going to cover in this part um in this part of the series is our um oh my gosh I'm sorry I forgot the wing three I jumped ahead so we have type two those are the type one energies that you can bring in and then how to channel your type three wing as a two is to one step into the limelight seek respect and three maintain your work focus. So here's what that looks like stepping into the limelight threes are very comfortable being in the the spotlight they like being recognized for what they accomplished twos on the other hand prefer others to um to to be the helper of others to be successful and they want to do it from behind the scenes. They prefer to have that power behind the throne rather than be the king or queen themselves. So experiment with stepping into the limelight experiment with having the eyes on you with getting recognized for your achievements um volunteer to give a presentation rather than defer to somebody else maybe it's doing a solo podcast episode where you typically interview others and get their inner their opinions and thoughts every once in a while maybe share your perspective allow yourself to be in the spotlight or do a um a live video where you are your yourself are sharing what you know your opinions your thoughts you're stepping into that spotlight um he let's see I think this is from okay this is a quote from the book that says accepting a compliment isn't a violation of humility it's an expression of gratitude for an act of kindness deflecting that compliment undermines the gesture and discourages those people from praising others in the future even if you're struggling to believe what that person said, saying thank you shows that you value their words. So even that is just stepping into the spotlight and and allowing yourself to be recognized even if it's just for a moment with a compliment the second way to embrace your three wing as a type two is to seek respect. So threes want respect whereas twos most of the time want to be liked. However the thing for the twos to remember before that they can move into anybody else respecting them they first have to respect themselves. And so a great place to start with that is to ask yourself do I really respect myself? And this is something that a lot of us can ask ourselves not just our type twos but do I really respect myself and what must I do to respect myself that is completely independent of what others think of me and I'll also add completely independent of what I do for others. And so if you're thinking do I really respect myself another question might be how do I disrespect myself? How do I not respect myself? And a lot of that can come to the boundaries that you set or don't set and how much you really enforce those. Adam Grant had a great um comment around boundaries and and kind of respecting those for yourself and saying that when people overstep it's not always because they don't respect your boundaries oftentimes it's because you haven't drawn your boundaries and so if you don't tell people where the line is how can they learn to stop crossing it so I thought that was such great advice for kind of giving us a step by step for how to actually do that to you know respect ourselves by setting clear boundaries so first what are those boundaries and then secondly communicating those boundaries to others and then third is making sure that those boundaries are enforced when somebody does cross them after you've clearly communicated them then what do you say? How do you stand up for that? And then the third one uh the third way to kind of bring in that three energy for your type two is to maintain your work focus. So stress, de stress, challenges, issues inevitably are going to come up in life and in in in your day. So typically when those things happen threes are going to step into their confidence. They're going to become very work focused in order to get through that challenge, that stressful time whereas twos can sometimes actually get derailed from from the work at hand because they're so focused on the emotions and feelings and what's going on with others during that time. And while that's happening they'll let their you know their normal optimism get overran by anxiety and worry and negativity. So they're just kind of stewing they're derailed they're focusing on these emotions they're worrying rather than looking at what needs to be done, what needs to be accomplished so when these things come up for our type twos bringing in that three energy can be really helpful so that you're staying focused on the goal instead of kind of dwelling on those emotions which is the exact opposite of what we've talked about and what we'll talk about again. Whereas for some types the advice is to stop focusing so much on the goal and to focus on other people right but here we're saying the exact opposite so this is just another example of why it's so important to eventually understand what your dominant type is, what your core driver is so that you can get on the right path right so if you're you know mistyped as as you know another type and you're getting this advice it's not applicable. You're gonna disregard it you're gonna disregard the Enneagram potentially um and it's not it's just not going to be helpful. But when you get to your most accurate Enneagram type you're able to get on a path that is very relevant that is very helpful. And so going back to this our type twos channeling that three energy can um can bring in that ability to stay focused on the goal. And so an idea for actually putting that into practice is to think about somebody who you really look up to who has a lot of confidence and who in times of challenges and problems kind of keep their eye on the prize, keep their eye on the ball, whatever saying there is and are able to move through that challenge, those hard emotions and not get derailed, not allow feelings to cloud their efficiency to their productivity and to really think about who that is. So who does a great job of that? And then can you borrow some of that energy can you step into that energy yourself as a type two Adam Grant um also shared another great quote surprise surprise called or not called but he said your scarcest resource isn't your time it's actually your attention your best work flows from paying undivided attention to the projects that matter to you. I'm gonna say that again your best work flows from paying undivided attention to the projects that matter to you your deepest connections come from listening with attention to the people who matter to you so it's not just you're giving this project your time you're giving this idea your time you're giving this person your time sitting on the couch with them and spending two hours with them watching a movie potentially but are you giving them your attention? Are you giving your project that you said you wanted to complete are you giving it the attention that it needs in order to move down in order to reach your goal with that three energy. Okay and lastly today we're gonna wrap it up with our type three and we're gonna talk about three ways that they can harness their their superpowers of the wing to when it comes to motivating others, dedicating yourself to the success of others and then showing more personal warmth and empathy. And so for the type two we already talked about when it comes to motivating others they are very good at this. They tend to focus on what will help and motivate others where threes are going to be focused on what is going to help them achieve their goal. So when you come into a new project ask yourself early on who else needs to be involved here? What will motivate them to want to participate? What's the best approach for them? And again this is channeling that two energy that is very intuitive where they're one of their superpowers as a leader is to understand what people need and what they want and to be able to put the right person in the right role. So thinking about that using that energy and then think how can you help them be both successful and satisfied in that experience the second way to bring in some of your two energy as a three is to dedicate yourself to the success of others. And this might be your team this might be your partner this might be your clients this might be your community on social media what and ask yourself and ask them maybe directly what can I do to help you be really successful? What can I help you do to be really successful? Purposely don't take credit for the accomplishment for hitting the goal and instead spread the praise to others around you. Adam Grant said the higher you climb, the more your success depends on making other people successful. Leaders are judged by what their followers achieve leadership is elevating individuals to do more than they thought possible and the group to do more than their members could do independently so good, right? So, so good. And I was even thinking you know yes this is this is highlighting your client's success and not necessarily taking credit for their success, but just you know being honored to be a part of the journey that they are on and really giving them the credit whether it's a shout out on social media, a story that you share on your website a story that you tell in your email um this might even be sharing the praise and complimenting others that are peers of yours in your niche or industry and highlighting the success that they're having in their businesses and their mission and the work that they're doing, praising them, right? And again, the this isn't just a three thing because we can all kind of you know fall into this, but it is so interesting how we have our twos who we're giving this opposite advice to we're saying no no no step into the spotlight take credit and here on the flip side of that we're saying no no no if your growth is actually going to be not taking credit it's going to be giving credit to others. So just really interesting once you dive into your type the specific growth paths for you. And then the last one here for our type three wing two is going to show more personal warmth and empathy. Adam Grant said leadership is more than developing a vision and strategy. It's caring about the people who implement that vision and strategy. So very work oriented very goal oriented we are as threes or you are as a three and they can overfocus on success. They can overfocus on the outcomes and accomplishment yes you need that energy to move the ball down the field to get things done. And also there's a time where you need to bring up those behind those projects behind those outcomes and take care of those people to have a lot of empathy for others. So tap into that energy on a regular basis with your team with your clients and ask yourself you know what emotions might this person be having about this current situation? It doesn't have to be negative all the time they might be stressed out they might be scared they might be stressed but also they might be really happy they might be excited about something so pay attention to all of those emotions our type twos are very good at understanding the emotions of others not so much themselves and we're gonna get into the the wing four here in just a second but type threes tend to push those all emotions their own emotions and others out of the way to focus on the goal and their growth is going to be bringing in the emotions paying attention asking people you know how they feel those people taking care of the people behind the goals and all the work that they're doing. And and also I had put here in my notes that it it can be important too to work on relating to these people and seeing the issues through their eyes and how they might be feeling rather than try to automatically go into problem solve, which so many of us try to do um but it can be a huge growth piece for you as a type three and also be a huge um just a just um such a I guess a an action to show that you care about that person by just sitting that they feel so seen and so heard by you just sitting there and saying, yeah, that sucks. Gosh I'd be feeling that same way or I totally get why you would be stressed out rather than immediately going into problem solving, which I get I do that too. This is something I'm working on but it can be that it can make that person just feel so much more cared about when you're saying I hear you like I see you I get it and just validating those feelings and that experience that they're having rather than trying to push them through it right away. Like let them just sit with it for a minute. Okay. And then lastly we have our wing four where we're going to talk about showing your emotions but it's a little bit of a different twist on emotions. It's your emotions not the emotions of others tapping into creativity and then becoming a visionary. So our type fours are very focused on emotions that are happening inside them they're very introspective and they know how they're feeling and may not necessarily be as good at understanding the feelings of others although they absolutely can but their core kind of experience of emotions is from within so threes can really harness that four energy by sharing with their group, with their partner with their communities how they're feeling and it could be done through a story about yourself. So rather than you know focusing the story on all that you have accomplished focus on the events in Your life in that situation that have really mattered to you and the feelings that you had about them. Adam Grant said, vulnerability isn't the opposite of resilience. Vulnerability builds resilience. Projecting perfection protects your ego, but shuts out people and actually stunts your growth. Instead, revealing struggles show humility and humanity, which opens the door to new sources of strength and support. So, you know, as a three, it can feel like, gosh, I have to do this all on my own. I'm, I need to go far and I need to go fast and I need to hit the goal. But it's like, what might happen if you opened yourself up a little bit, if you shared a little bit of um vulnerability, if you shared about a failure, which I know your skin's probably crawling at that thought, like thinking about opening up, talking about a time that you failed can be really hard, but oh my goodness, it can build so much relatability and trust with the person directly in front of you, with the community around you. So I love what he said about it building resilience and it not being a weakness, which I know can also come up for our type ones, definitely our type eights as well. And then the second thing for our type threes, bringing in their wing four energy is to tap into creativity. So fours tend to really express their deep feelings through all kinds of different art forms, whereas threes, they're gonna shove those deep feelings far, far deep inside of them. But artistic expression, um, it actually involves risk and experimenting, which I know can be hard for type threes, the thought of not being good at something. But if you can push yourself to try something new, a new avenue of expression, and even if you're not good at it right away, go ahead and do it anyway. Just allow yourself to play. Pick, pick an artistic channel, whether it's writing or photography or painting or dance or sculpting or whatever else might be out there. And just remember that you're doing it for yourself. You're not doing it for anybody else, you're not doing it for the audience, you're not doing it for the praise. It doesn't matter if people think it's good or not. You it's there for you to enjoy the process of doing it. Um, and if you need some rationale behind why would you do this? This doesn't feel productive. There was actually a Forbes article that talked all about the benefits of creativity from the professional work lens. And it said that engaging in creative behaviors helps improve brain function and mental health and physical health. So there you go. You got you got some benefits of why you want to maybe try something new. Try channel that four energy and it use your artistic expression. And then last but not least is this idea of becoming a visionary. Fours are very visionary, whereas threes tend to be more focused on that concrete goal. So the ability to create, Ginger says in her book, the ability to create compelling visions has been shown to be the most significant way that leaders both enlist and align their followers to collectively create greatness in companies and organizations. Visions convey direction at a higher level that goals just can't. So our visions are typically going, we're gonna be able to share our purpose, we're gonna share values, we're gonna share meaning or maybe the rationale behind the goal, behind the direction that we're going. And then rather than just saying, this is the goal, the goal is to make this amount of money, the goal is to have this amount of followers, the goal is to launch our new product, the goal is to start a podcast. Great. Those are, you know, great. It's important to have intentions. Um have some thoughts on goals too, by the way, but we'll get into later. It's, I think it's less about the outcome sometimes and more about the work, the intention, the steps that you take to get to that goal that are in your control. Um, but topic for another day. For this, for the purposes of this, um, how you can act, you know, apply this practically is to think about and look at each goal that you set, whether it's for yourself, you're sharing it with a client, you know, you're working together to co-create their goals. Um, you're sharing your goals with your community, with your organization, wherever it is, look at and then communicate why you believe that goal is important. Why are you doing it? What's the purpose of it? What is the vision? Where is that goal taking you in the bigger picture and making sure that when you talk about goals, that you're emphasizing the reason behind the goal more than the goal itself? So um there you have some very actionable activities and things to think about, ways to channel your wings and hope, regardless of what type you identify with, that you pulled a couple of tangible ways to use this knowledge from the Enneagram and apply it to the work that you do, the mission that you want to accomplish, the relationship in your life. And we will be back next week to dive into our type four, five, and six wings. So I'll see you back here next week for those.